How to have a Calmbirth
Where to start… 7:30am, Tuesday , I woke up to cramps and a
bloody show. Later that afternoon we went in for a check up with our midwife, Sarah, who confirmed that my water had broke and we would be meeting baby in the next 24 – 48 hours!
At this point, I wasn’t having any contractions. Sarah recommended
being induced if I didn’t go into labour in the next 24 hours, but she
was fairly confident that the contractions would be starting soon. So
she sent us home and told us to keep her updated.
We really wanted to avoid inducement so when we got home we focused,
pulled out the Calmbirth notes and switched gears. We did everything by
the book – dimmed the lights, put the clary sage oil in the diffuser,
massage to get the oxytocin flowing, used the fit ball, hit those
acupressure points (the sacral acupressure points gave massive relief!)
and played the Calmbirth relaxation recordings.
We started all this at about 6:30pm, and within the hour I was having
contractions. It worked! Amazing. And by about 8pm the contractions were
like clockwork. Hard to time but Carl was writing it all down and they
were lasting about 1 minute and occurring every 2-3 minutes,
consistently for over an hour. It all happened so quickly but we knew it
was time, so we called Sarah and off we went back to the hospital.
We got to the hospital at about 10pm. We went into a waiting room as
they prepared a room for us – we wanted a room with a bath so we had to
wait until that room was cleaned.
At this point, the contractions were getting quite intense. Carl was
super helpful – helping me to walk it out, maintain the flow of my
breath, and providing moral and physical support (literally – I was
hanging off him like a tree branch).
We got into our room at about 11pm. We continued with the clary sage,
massage and fit ball positions.
We also put some music on. Carl recently found this pianist/composer,
Ludovico Einaudi. I hadn’t given that much thought to music for the
birth. But the moment he put it on, it somehow put me in this calmed
state and I was able to breathe through a beautiful period of stillness
while having the contractions. After another half hour of contractions,
Sarah finally checked my cervix – I was fully dilated! It was all
As a first timer, I was expecting a much longer labour but it seems this
would not be the case. Here we were, 3.5 hours into established labour
and I was ready to pop! So Sarah started running the bath.
At about midnight, we hopped into the bath – me stripped down and Carl
in his board shorts and t-shirt. Being in the water made such a
difference. Giving birth was exactly as you described it – my body knew
exactly when to push.
So, with encouragement from Carl and Sarah, at 00:55am, Wednesday, I gave birth to Julius – I got to lift him out of the water and onto my chest, whilst Carl’s arms were wrapped around me.
It’s hard to describe the feelings and the emotions. Sarah said that
both Carl and I became very quiet and still. I think we were overwhelmed
and stunned by it all. We hadn’t even given a thought to finding out
Julius’ sex until Sarah asked us 🙂
I feel very lucky to have had this experience giving birth. And both
Carl and I feel that you and the Calmbirth classes gave us the tools and
knowledge to prepare us. Going into this with an open mind, no fear and
our Calmbirth toolkit made it, overall, a positive experience.
So on this note, we would like to thank you and Calmbirth. It’s hard to
say exactly what allowed us to have such an amazing experience, but the
fact is that we followed the Calmbirth process and everything went just
as we had planned – quick labour, no drugs and an amazing water birth!
So a big thank you from us, with lots and lots of love. x